International Day of the Midwife- Melissa Torres CNM
Melissa Torres is a Certified Nurse Midwife currently practicing in Loudoun county, Virginia. She graduated with a Master’s in Nursing degree from Frontier Nursing University in 2017 and has over nine years of nursing experience caring for women. She currently lives in Prince William County with her husband of 18 years and two boys.
What led you to this career?
My journey to midwifery began when I was pregnant with my first son while serving as an active duty Marine. The lack of support that I experienced during my pregnancy, labor and birth left me feeling afraid, alone, unprepared and doubting my abilities as a new mother. These feelings resonated with me and led me to question how things could have been different. I soon developed a passion for women’s health, advocacy and empowerment. My desire to learn how to promote improved prenatal support, education and meaningful care ultimately brought me to the midwifery model..
2. What do you enjoy most about work?
What I love the most about midwifery is empowering women to take ownership of their health and witnessing the moment a woman realizes that she is so much stronger than she knew she could ever be as she crosses the threshold into motherhood.
3. If you are a parent, how was your birth and postpartum?
I have two wonderful boys, 11 and 14 years old. My births could not have been more different. My first birth was long, hard and ultimately ended in a cesarean section. I suffered significant birth trauma from that experience and due to the lack of family and social support I developed postpartum anxiety. This made me feel incompetent as a wife, mother and woman. Eventually, my husband and I developed our a network of friends that over the years have become family. With my second son I had a successful vaginal birth after cesarean section (VBAC) at 41 weeks with a midwife. My care during my second pregnancy was much more personal and I actually felt like an active participant in my care. To say that the postpartum period and recovery with my second son was easier is an understatement. I felt much more confident in my abilities as a mother and had a wonderful support system in place that truly made a significant difference.
4. What resources would you want parents to have?
As a mother and a midwife I want families to have access to evidence based education and care as well as a support system that can guide them through their journey. After personally experiencing birth trauma and suffering from anxiety I know first hand how important these resources can be for a family. We are also severely lacking in mental health resources, let alone resources that specialize in women’s mental health. Unfortunately, many of these services that do exist have long wait list and even worse are not often covered by insurance which limits accessibility to those that need it most.
5. What is one unique thing about your business that your customers/clients love?
The most unique thing about our practice is that we offer a truly collaborative model of care with both physicians and midwives working together to achieve the best outcomes and birth experiences for our families. We also offer a 24/7 midwifery service with the option to labor and birth in a traditional labor and delivery unit or at the hospital owned birth center.
6. What's one thing you think the world needs to do to improve the lives of new parents (or people living in our service area)?
As I mentioned previously I believe that the one thing that families need that would truly improve the health and wellness of our communities is improved access to quality health care that not only meets their medical needs but also promotes mental and emotional wellbeing.
7. What do you think is the hardest part of expecting baby or becoming a parent?
The hardest part about becoming a parent is remembering to show yourself some grace and give yourself permission to make mistakes along the way. I work with so many families that are just so afraid of not being enough for their babies- not feeding them right, dressing them right, etc. I want parents to know that they are enough. One of my biggest challenges as a new mom was self care. I struggled with this...hard! I ultimately learned that in order to be the best version of myself for me and my family I needed to do things that were just for me. As new parents it is incredibly challenging to carve out time each day for themselves and their partners, but it is oh so necessary.
8. What products or services do you personally love?
I personally love when the families I serve chose to work with a doula. Doulas provide education and support that is associated with improved maternal and fetal outcomes as well as decreased risk of cesarean section. I find that when a family is working with a doula and a midwife they are much more actively involved in their care which assist them in being more prepared for labor, birth and beyond.
9. How do you start each day?
Some may find this either silly or think that I am neurotic but I actually begin each day by making my bed. By doing this it allows me to start each day by achieving something, even if it is a small task. This sets me on the mental path to accomplish everything else I need to that day. I also spend some quality time each morning with a very large mug of coffee.
10. What's your favorite thing to do in DC?
My family and I love being tourist in DC, there are so many great parks and museums. We also enjoy hiking in local parks and fruit picking at many of the orchards and farms in the DC metropolitan area.
